I'm new to this forum and hope to get some help here. Thanx in advance

I have one WIN XP 32bit and one WIN 7 Home 64bit pc. For security reasons I want to use DSM plugin to make connection from WIN7 to WIN XP over the Internet.
Without DSM plugin I can connect with no problem. When I want to use DSM plugin it seems to me that the 32bit version is not compatible with the 64bit version, is that right?
Can anyone please give me a hint on how to connect the two mentioned PCs with using DSM plugin, please?
A second question would be if it is necessary to use DSM plugin for security reasons if I would use a VPN connection instead?
Thank you very much